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October 23, 2003
more on women and bullies, and stuff
It's interesting that some of my very favorite bloggers had a lot of the same hurts growing up that I did. It's also kinda cool that at least 3 of us were adopted.
Though my mom and dad loved me and my sister more than life itself, we had an evil Aunt Jean, who still lives, damn her. She made my mom's life miserable by mocking her about having to adopt children because she could not have any of 'her own'. My evil Aunt Jean (Karr, look her up, I don't care!) had five children, none of which she cared for at all. In fact my pedophile Uncle Bud (another long story) babysat for them all the time so she woud not have to deal with children.
When my mom died, my Aunt Jean broke into Daddy's apartment and took quite a few things that were mom's - she didn't think that Anne (my sister) and I should inherit them. Anyway, my mom's side of the family was totally fucked up, and my sister and I still say we are really happy we don't have those genes in our pool! I could tell evil Aunt Jean stories for days! And she still calls my poor sister from time to time - I told her to jump in the fucking lake about 7 years ago - before Daddy died.
Oh, once I start writing about this stuff, it's hard to stop. There is something very cathartic about writing, isn't there?
I do have a theory, though. I think that those of us who were shunned as kids, and even as adults are different. I suspect we might be smarter or more creative, or perhaps our minds just work in ways so different from the cheerleader girls, that we would never connect with them, no matter what.
I am not sure that society can deal with those of us who are different enough to be obvious - I did not find the right company to work for until I was 48 years old, for God's sake! Everywhere else, I was too smart, or too aggressive, or I was threatening to others because I worked to my own high standards, and I don't suffer fools.
Somebody stop me before I go on! Maybe I really do need to use this as a journal, as stuff pours out of my pores onto this blog. hmmmmmm.
Posted by Beth at October 23, 2003 8:05 PM
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Are you kidding?! 'Different' IS 'normal', because everyone has issues. :)
Nobody got away from childhood unscathed, and nobody's life, even the royal family of Denmark's [pulled that outta my ass, i don't know why] is a bed of roses.
We all complain. We all bitch. We all cry. We all laugh. We all talk about it. We all celebrate Holidays and we all tolerate family we detest. Or not.
Hey, we need an "Alliance of Adopted Bloggers"! ;)
Aunt Jean is a megaloasshat.
Posted by: pam at October 24, 2003 6:26 AM
yeah, I should shut up. We are all 'different' but having a class of 14 other little girls target you for being even more different was hard as a little girl. I still don't trust women much. Men don't treat people that way.
Posted by: Beth Donovan at October 24, 2003 8:03 AM