Comments for On the issue of Dover, and privacy.

On the issue of Dover, and privacy.

2009-03-18T18:58:08Z

That David of Thunder Run mentioned here today.

I stand beside Army wife and author Lily Burana on this.

And I love this paragraph. It's my mom, and my wife. And Cassandra, and Greta, and Cricket, and Carrie, and Sarah, and... well the list is endless, really. And I can't leave out Maggie, and Fuzzybee, and Maryann, either.

One acquaintance, favoring privacy, said that if the worst were to happen to her husband and someone wielding a camera dared to elbow in on her family's grief, she'd "open up a can of Army wife whoop-ass." The image of the modern military spouse is half-frontier wife, half-Care Bear -- by turns stoically able and cooingly comforting. But when it comes to acting on behalf of our kin and the larger military family, make no mistake: Wives are warriors too.

They also serve, who stand and wait.

Comment from John of Argghhh! on 2009-03-19

2009-03-19T14:43:18Z

Carrie - you *so* don't get to make that determination.

The external actors do.

This is a People's Choice award, so there.

So, as I said to Cassie - Pish tosh, womyn!

Comment from Marine Baggage on 2009-03-19

2009-03-19T14:21:13Z

Thanks for the kind words, John.. but I'm with Cass on this.
I'm not deserving of such praise but I have seen so many spouses who most definitely are.

Comment from Maggie on 2009-03-18

2009-03-19T01:49:46Z

I don't necessarily disagree with her. I just think it's a parallel discussion.

Dover will not affect individual families so much as those who currently are involved at Dover (or will be).

Her premise is that a government policy can't cover all the contingencies of what a particular service member's family would want. She's right. Mil-spouses come in every possible stripe.

But that's not what Dover is about.

Personally I think the media is framing the discussion this way on purpose. If you ask the people who are really affected.....they want it left alone.

Comment from htom on 2009-03-18

2009-03-18T20:31:17Z

Hey, Press? I gotta clue for you. Most grownups don't think it's a good plan to pick a fight with a bunch of Marines. You know who the smart Marines don't pick fights with? Military Moms. We know where the losing battles are. (Was it Lewis or Clark who said) "...Mr. Grizzly then declined the combat." Ms Bear, she's just a gal what won't say no. You do not want to cross, you do not even want to meet Ms. Angry Grizzly Bear. I'd sooner fight her than a Military Mom.

Comment from John of Argghhh! on 2009-03-18

2009-03-18T19:57:23Z

Oh, pish-tosh woman. You're as bad as I am at that self-effacing carp.

8^ )

Comment from Cassandra on 2009-03-18

2009-03-18T19:54:08Z

You did marry a good 'un, John :)

Thanks for the kind words. In my case they're undeserved, but nonetheless appreciated.