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The Vacant Chair.

The Vacant Chair

Here at the Castle we get emails like this one I'm about to share, now and again. Today is Easter for the Christian world, so this seems appropriate. I am a man with faith, though I do not seek a relationship through the offices of any particular organized community of faith. Yesterday, Blue Star Chronicles left a trackback on the H&I which I thought needed to be moved up into the post itself.

Titled, "Final Salute" it is more about her concerns for her son's impending deployment to the Big Sandbox, and the pain she's seen already, and she wonders how we all cope.

That motivated frequent commenter Gwedd, a retired Navy aircrewman, to send along this (edited just a touch for privacy).

John,

I was reading the post linked to today over to Blue Star Chronicles about how Beth there is worried about her son deploying soon. The "600 pound elephant in the room", and also her links to the story about a Marine casualty returning home. I had the honor to perform this duty back in 1978, and it's something I will never forget. Not only because of the whole experience, but because I knew the sailor who I escorted home. He was a friend, and that made it both easier and harder.

Anyway, I thought also about how others deal with this, and one commenter on her blog remarked about an empty chair at the table. This immediately reminded me of an old civil war song entitled "The Vacant Chair", by George F. Root. It's maudlin and poignant and yet still rings through 145 years to today. I've included the lyrics for your perusal.

Thanks for the great weblog you fellers run. It's always a good read for this old airdale.

Respects,

Gwedd


THE VACANT CHAIR:

We will meet but we will miss him,
There will be his vacant chair;
We will linger to caress him
While we breathe our evening prayer;
When a year ago we gathered,
Joy was in his mild blue eye,
But a golden chord is severed,
And our hopes in ruin lie.

CHORUS:
We will meet, but we will miss him,
There will be his vacant chair,
We will linger to caress him
While we breathe our evening prayer.

At our fireside, sad and lonely,
Often will the bosom swell
At remembrance of the story,
How our noble father fell;
How he strove to bear our banner
Through the thickest of the fight;
And uphold our country's honor,
In the strength of manhood's fight.

True, they tell us wreaths of glory
Ever more will deck his brow,
But this soothes the anguish only,
Sweeping o'er our heartstrings now.
Sleep today, Oh early fallen,
In thy green and narrow bed.
Dirges from the pine and cypress
Mingle with the tears we shed.

'Tis more than just a song.

I know I'm mangling theology here (for which I will be punished by my more ecclesiastically-learned colleagues on Monday) but I see an easy Easter tie-in.

What is a Church, but a Vacant Chair? A place to focus the thoughts on sacrifice and promise of redemption, and a better future? And what is Easter but the single most intense moment of that Promise? And the hope for an eventual reunion?

Happy Easter. Go hang with your family and friends. In Church, if you want.

Salisbury Cathedral

5 Comments

Wow! Beautiful, John.
 
Very nice - Thanks for a beautiful post, and reminder.
 
We have a few more vacant chairs this year. They did not sacrifice today on the field, but long ago and they returned to us as whole as one can after such endeavors. Now they pass from us one at a time and the emptiness of each chair seems hard to ignore. We might laugh and joke, yet we always seem to end up some how including them by telling a story about this incident or that. So, the chair may be empty, but they are always there. So I feel that keenly for all of the families who have lost loved ones in our current battle and for those whose loved ones are still far away. REmember them fondly and remember, the resurrection was the promise of renewal and joy. I remember the words in a Psalm, sorrowful, yet rejoicing. Two years ago near Easter when we were laying my grandmother to rest, as I drove home, I saw it on the sign in front of a church and I knew instantly what it meant. The betrayal of Christ, his scourging, his crucifixion, His Mother crying at his feet and then his resurrection which gave us hope in the everlasting, a sign of renewal and joy, appearing to his disciples and his mother as proof of his word. It helped me to be reminded of that. In that moment, when I read the sign as I traveled to the funeral, I felt I had received a powerful personal message. God works in mysterious ways, and Easter is a reminder of that fact.
 
John, very cool post. Aslightly related story... My mom came from a large family, nine brothers and sisters. We all lived in Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area so Thanksgivings and Easters were always a big deal. I can remember as a teenager hiding 30 dozen eggs around the yard of my parents house for the little ones to find. The last big Thanksgiving, the table for the food was three sheets of 4x8 plywood laid end to end, and there were 27 cakes and pies in the kitchen. But then people started leaving South Florida, and the only time we all got together was for weddings or funerals. When my Dad died in 1995, two days after Easter on April 18, several cousins and I were sitting around my Mom's house and we decided that we needed to do something. So we started an annual family reunion. Now, every Memorial Day weekend we all get together. We average anywhere from 100 to 160 people, depending on who is able to get there. We always have a prayer before the big dinner. I think this year, I'll read "The Chair" because the ones who are gone are reason we are there. Thanks, John. Great post...
 
What a beautiful post! I'm going to copy the poem on Blue Star Chronicles. Thanks for the link - but especially thanks for the poem and the post. Beth
 
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